If you’ve ever experienced bitterness and resentment, then you know that it is not something worth carrying around all the time. It becomes a heavy burden that weighs us down. Forgiveness takes this away. Forgiveness kills bitterness and resentment.
Forgiving someone else is freeing.
It allows us to break those chains of thought that have been weighing us down. If you are not able to forgive someone, it forever becomes something that you cannot bear. You will not be able to think of that person or that particular circumstance the same again. When it does come to mind, it becomes paralyzing.
Why to forgive
Truthfully, if you cannot get over your own pride, you will never be able to fully forgive anyone for anything. You have to be able to push aside whatever pride, anger, resentment, bitterness,
ego or hate is left inside you to accept the person that has hurt you. You will not have access to the compassion inside you if you cannot get rid of these walls that have been strongly built around your heart.
It’s always important to take care of yourself, but convincing yourself that not forgiving someone is the way to do that, is a lie. The only way to feel free from those scars, is by openly admitting to yourself that we are all imperfect people who become selfish sometimes. We all need forgiveness at some point. We all hurt other people, but the reason we’re able to maintain the very important relationships in our lives is because of forgiveness.
Look in the mirror
The best way to understand how a person that hurt you feels is by looking in the mirror and evaluating your own faults and offenses. We all have them and we’ve all hurt someone in one way or another. Perhaps the way to open up yourself to forgiving someone else is by looking inward first. Think about a time when you needed the forgiveness of someone else to be freed from the scar that you left.
If we’re able to look inward and recognize times that we needed forgiveness to move on, we’ll be able to see the value in forgiving another individual. Looking inward will also help us practice the skill of empathy. If we can evaluate ourselves more often, we’ll be more careful of our own approach to someone else because we ultimately know what it feels like to be hurt. We can place ourselves in their shoes and understand the value of forgiveness better.
❤️ Forgiveness ❤️
Forgiveness may not come easy, especially if you were hurt in a significant way. But it's an important part of moving on from painful experiences, and it will ultimately give you greater mental health and happiness.
Forgiveness doesn't mean you have to forget. It does, however, mean that you need to stop holding on to feelings of anger and resentment.
Forgiving your friend also requires you to forgive yourself. If you had any part in the incident, or if you ended up saying something out of anger, you need to let that go as well.
Once you've forgiven everyone involved, you'll be free. With time you will move past the painful experience completely.
Don’t be afraid to forgive other people. If you refuse to forgive others, your heart ❤️ can become hardened or Closed - Instead, allow yourself to continue to forgive. It will unlock a piece of you in your heart.
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